My parents understood that once I moved out on my own and started my own family, they then became the “extended” family. My “immediate” family, meaning spouse and kids, are now my main concern. I would never expect, nor want, my parents to constantly be around when I’m trying to raise my family. I don’t need the unsolicited advice that some like to give. They are not the parents of my children. I am the parent of my kids, and I will decide what is best for my family. This does not mean I don’t include them, or talk to them about whatever may come up, but they need to hover about or be there for the decision making when it has nothing to do with them. I would never want to do this to my kids, and I hope that once they’re grown and on their own, I can say – look, I must have done a great job raising them since they’re able to stand on their own and take care of themselves.

This should be your time to do all of those things you couldn’t while raising children. Find some hobbies, travel, get together with friends, go have fun!

There are books out there for parents who have a difficult time in letting go. Do a search for books on “empty nest syndrome.” It could be helpful.

Maybe they did not mean to exclude you on the important family thing. Have you asked them? You may be surprised at their response.

A rule of thumb I live by is if you are the best parent possible, which I think you are, your kids will always love and respect you even if they don’t always express it.