Comments on: Dead Beat Parents http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55 Are You Ready To Boil Over..So Are We! Thu, 02 Feb 2012 05:56:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: idbd http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-39 idbd Fri, 31 Oct 2008 06:26:49 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-39 Report deadbeat parents who do not provide child support at IDBD International Dead Beat Database. http://www.IDBD.org Report deadbeat parents who do not provide child support at IDBD International Dead Beat Database.

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]]> By: ShareKhoo http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-38 ShareKhoo Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:45:33 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-38 It may be a good idea to have a place (like this one for instance) to rant. But you must keep it all in perspective; that this is meant for you to safely rant (you are only releasing the negativity without harming anyone), and when you are done, that's it. It is an even better idea not to dwell on it(anger/rant, etc.). Then you can turn your attention onto something good in your life. You can't when you are feeling bad. You can make a difference and you can make it all different for your kids regardless of what happened in the past. Pretty sure you have heard that the power is in the NOW. This is how you can undo the past. And so, obviously, what you do now affects the future. So what is your choice? What's the use of putting the blame on phantoms in your life? What's the use of holding onto things/people? Do you still want to attract the same type of circumstances/people into your life? (There's no end to people like that, you now. They may have parents like that themselves.) Do YOU truly want to let your kids and yourself have it better in life? You are all who matters in their life (and your own life now since of course you are in your own life) NOW so are you going to take charge, or the phantoms? It may be a good idea to have a place (like this one for instance) to rant. But you must keep it all in perspective; that this is meant for you to safely rant (you are only releasing the negativity without harming anyone), and when you are done, that’s it.

It is an even better idea not to dwell on it(anger/rant, etc.). Then you can turn your attention onto something good in your life. You can’t when you are feeling bad.

You can make a difference and you can make it all different for your kids regardless of what happened in the past.

Pretty sure you have heard that the power is in the NOW. This is how you can undo the past. And so, obviously, what you do now affects the future.

So what is your choice? What’s the use of putting the blame on phantoms in your life? What’s the use of holding onto things/people? Do you still want to attract the same type of circumstances/people into your life? (There’s no end to people like that, you now. They may have parents like that themselves.)

Do YOU truly want to let your kids and yourself have it better in life? You are all who matters in their life (and your own life now since of course you are in your own life) NOW so are you going to take charge, or the phantoms?

]]> By: Chad & Stacey http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-37 Chad & Stacey Fri, 22 Feb 2008 20:11:45 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-37 That is a great idea. We are glad you stopped by to let our readers know about IDBD it is a major issue in our country. That is a great idea. We are glad you stopped by to let our readers know about IDBD it is a major issue in our country.

]]> By: IDBD http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-36 IDBD Fri, 22 Feb 2008 18:26:03 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-36 Report dead beat parents free! New support forum allows users and visitors to report non-paying parent information in child support cases. This resource will assist users to circulate and collect information about a dead beat parent's location and financial information which will be used to aid in the collection of past due child support. VISIT http://www.idbd.info IDBD- Internation Dead Beat Database for more information! Report dead beat parents free! New support forum allows users and visitors to report non-paying parent information in child support cases. This resource will assist users to circulate and collect information about a dead beat parent’s location and financial information which will be used to aid in the collection of past due child support.

VISIT http://www.idbd.info IDBD- Internation Dead Beat Database for more information!

]]> By: Chad & Stacey http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-35 Chad & Stacey Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:10:38 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-35 Yes Edith, it is his loss. It sounds like you have two very nice young men, cherish that. There are so many similar stories out there, don't forget that your not alone. Yes Edith, it is his loss. It sounds like you have two very nice young men, cherish that. There are so many similar stories out there, don’t forget that your not alone.

]]> By: Edith http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-34 Edith Sat, 02 Feb 2008 21:50:44 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-34 I agree on every issue that was stated in raising a child. I'm also a single parent, who is raising twin sons. The last time they saw their dad, Charles E. Jackson was in 2001 and at that time he owed $60,000.00 in back child support. He moved away and left no forwarding address/number or even a third party contact. His family has never call them and they live in the same state with us. My sons will be graduating from High School this year. I asked them, if their father was to come back here to live would they want to contact him. The reply was obviously a NO| They no longer refer to him as dad, but by his first name. I instill in my sons, to forgive those who mistreats you. I hope and pray that they will forgive him and he will amend the relationship. If not, it is he who has lost those formidable years from two young boys, who have become two promising young men. I agree on every issue that was stated in raising a child. I’m also a single parent, who is raising twin sons. The last time they saw their dad, Charles E. Jackson was in 2001 and at that time he owed $60,000.00 in back child support. He moved away and left no forwarding address/number or even a third party contact. His family has never call them and they live in the same state with us. My sons will be graduating from High School this year. I asked them, if their father was to come back here to live would they want to contact him. The reply was obviously a NO| They no longer refer to him as dad, but by his first name. I instill in my sons, to forgive those who mistreats you. I hope and pray that they will forgive him and he will amend the relationship. If not, it is he who has lost those formidable years from two young boys, who have become two promising young men.

]]> By: Jodi http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-33 Jodi Sun, 20 Jan 2008 03:18:18 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-33 Thanks for your suggestions "anonymous" Thanks for your suggestions “anonymous”

]]> By: Scott http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-32 Scott Sun, 13 Jan 2008 02:53:49 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-32 Very upsetting to hear all your sad stories. I could never think about having a child and not being there for it, strange how were all unlike from one another. Very upsetting to hear all your sad stories. I could never think about having a child and not being there for it, strange how were all unlike from one another.

]]> By: Anonymous http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-31 Anonymous Wed, 02 Jan 2008 17:09:56 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-31 Hi Jodi I am in a very similar situation. My dead beat ex owes the kids way over $50,000 in back child support. I tried everything, but nothing seems to help. He has changed his last name, and when I hired a child support agency from Texas to find him, they finally did. The problem was I had to pay them $350 to take the case and find him, then when they did they got like 35% of the support. My thought was at least it was something, well that lasted about 6 months and he called the agency crying he was terminal with cancer and could not pay. That was well over 7 years ago and I have not seen a dime since. In my situation he never wanted anything to do with the kids, so that has made it a little easier on my part. I know where he lives and that he is also remarried with another family. The advice I have received throughout the years is, keep track of everything, every bit of contact, lies, and non payment. When the kids are legal adults they can go after him in small claims court for the money. It may not help them if he still can’t pay, but that judgment will always hang over his head. I am assuming that if you know where he is that you could also file a suit now while the kids are younger. At least that way he will never be able to get credit without people seeing he owes a lot of money in back support. Good Luck I hope it works out for you. Make sure you remind the kids that it is you that takes care of them and always puts them first. Hi Jodi I am in a very similar situation. My dead beat ex owes the kids way over $50,000 in back child support. I tried everything, but nothing seems to help. He has changed his last name, and when I hired a child support agency from Texas to find him, they finally did. The problem was I had to pay them $350 to take the case and find him, then when they did they got like 35% of the support. My thought was at least it was something, well that lasted about 6 months and he called the agency crying he was terminal with cancer and could not pay. That was well over 7 years ago and I have not seen a dime since. In my situation he never wanted anything to do with the kids, so that has made it a little easier on my part. I know where he lives and that he is also remarried with another family. The advice I have received throughout the years is, keep track of everything, every bit of contact, lies, and non payment. When the kids are legal adults they can go after him in small claims court for the money. It may not help them if he still can’t pay, but that judgment will always hang over his head. I am assuming that if you know where he is that you could also file a suit now while the kids are younger. At least that way he will never be able to get credit without people seeing he owes a lot of money in back support. Good Luck I hope it works out for you. Make sure you remind the kids that it is you that takes care of them and always puts them first.

]]> By: Jodi http://boiledover.com/dead-beat-parents/55#comment-30 Jodi Mon, 31 Dec 2007 01:59:42 +0000 http://boiledover.com/?p=55#comment-30 Very cool Victoria. I like that. Hope it works for you. Goodluck. Very cool Victoria. I like that. Hope it works for you. Goodluck.

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