Comments on: The Dead Beat Boyfriend

By: Suggestions

Suggestions — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 05:56:59 +0000

i love my daughter very much. I would be happy if she never moved out. She’s extremely talented; written one book completely has another almost half finished and two more in the works and she is very, very great at drawing,painting,etc. She was home-schooled and rarely left the house. She doesn’t like cigarettes or drugs. She meet this boy, a neighbor, that seemed to stay at home all the time(lived with his Grandmother because his mom and Dad were in prison for Meth. his sister was into drugs and he had been at one time. But he worked ever day and just came home and slept on the couch. My daughter seems to fall for him she was 20, a virgin and he was he 1st real boyfriend. We decided that we would be good people and let him live with us after they dated for several months. she was on birth control and got pregnant, then lost the baby at 7 weeks; didn’t know it till she was almost 12 wks. It devastated her and he has always been very loving and caring towards her, always showing affection. She found out that he smoked cigarettes and pot; she didn’t like it but tolerated it. I tried to teach her about having good credit and got her a credit card in her name. Since then there have been instances with him not coming home till early morning hours about 2, maybe 3 times in a years time. She did get pregnant again, on purpose this time and the baby is 7 weeks old now. Things have been changing gradually for the past 11 months or so but the biggest change came within a month of the baby being born. She wanted very much to breast feed but only lasted about a month. She doesn’t have a job but had an electric double pump and her Father bought her $10 worth of herbs to help produce more milk; which she wanted and didn’t need. I’ve known for awhile that he has been taking pain pills and i don’t honestly know what else BUT SOMETHING else occasionally. We have treated this 21 yr. boy like a member of the family. We’ve taken them out to eat. My husband had let him drive our 2007 Honda Civic and new Yamaha 125 scooter; which he NEVER DOES for anyone. We’ve bought him clothes, shoes, given him money and the list goes on. He hasn’t paid a bill here and all he does is take our Daughter to hang out at his Uncles and his friends/family. Since the baby boy was born Dec. 14, 2011, my husband sold his car because they lied to him about the car being wrecked and having a salvage title. He took a lot of that money and took, me, our Daughter and her boyfriend out to eat at a nice restaurant, bought them both new pairs of shoes and given them some money. When he finds out he is getting a big tax check back for carrying the baby he runs my Daughter’s credit card up to almost the max. lacking only $30 of going over. He said he would give her $750 to pay it all the way off and buy a newer car. Well he went over his head in debt for something he’ll never be able to pay just because of his insurance being so high for tickets, he’s been paying on a rent-to-own PlayStation 3 that cost hundreds and hundreds of dollars; it’s 20 a week, plus I gave him $80 to pay on the internet and he goes and gets a cable and internet package that’s over 100 a month in his name. We never had to pay for cable just internet so there is no way we can pay that part, only the internet part which he uses. He paid only $500 on my Daughter’s credit card NOT 750 like he said and he’s been taking his family out to eat. MY Daughter used her card and spent $70 dollars after all this while my husband stayed home and watched the baby; which I also do every single night since he was brought home from the hospital. I do not mind that part at all. I love my Grandson. My disabled son and my Daughter both didn’t have Grandparents in their lives; which has always really devastated me. That boy was dragging her everywhere the first couple of days in the car. i could tell she was tired and upset. SO I really let him have it and the disrespect that he had for me and hate it seemed like was too much for me. I slapped me twice. I’m not the type of person that like confrontations, so I’ll hold things in for a VERY long time. I just snapped on him. Since then he will not come in the front door, speak to me or even say he was sorry. I told him i was sorry for hitting him but that didn’t matter. He has been laying out of work a lot now. When he does get paid, it’s gone the next day. He has already added up charges on her card 2 days after only paying $500 instead of the $750. My Daughter, her boyfriend, his sister and his sister’s boyfriend were all taken out to eat with the bill being $70+ My husband and I watched the baby. Today they go to his uncles house and when she comes home, she starts showing me pictures of all his family she’s taken, some were taken today and then developed. She told me in front of him that he bought his uncle & uncles girlfriend really thick steaks. All I wanted to do was be there for my Daughter like my Mother and Father never did for me. I wanted to like her boyfriend and for him to like me. I’m so depressed about all of this i just want to get rid of him now but i’m afraid she will go with him AND take the baby. I told him the day that I went off on him that he could move back in with his Grandmother if he didn’t like it here; of course he said he would but he didn’t. We don’t have money but we do have a nicer and bigger home. My Daughter has always had the master bedroom and another bedroom beside it and the master bath. We’ve given them the best, name brand mattress and box-springs, Name brand Queen size and the room is kept filthy. I don’t feel like i can take much more of this. If it weren’t for my Daughter, disabled son(that lives in a group home) and my Grandson. I would just say the hell with it all and leave this world. Every person myself or my husband has been very good to and tried to help have done nothing but steal from us, use us and treat us like pure scum of the earth. I tell my Daughter i love her everyday, several times a day and she tells me the same but no one is showing it. Whatever happened to actions speak louder than words.
Sorry this was soooooo very long but any advice, words of wisdom, someone going through the same thing or has been through the same thing……please, please talk to me. You can email me at sugert1@live .com. Thanks for letting me rant.

By: Broken Heart

Broken Heart — Thu, 19 May 2011 03:43:56 +0000

Thank you for your response, I do solely agree with you, move on. I have and I feel as though I will write my book on the subject, I do not want to see another go through what I went through with this jerk. I will sleep better at night if knowing I have witnessed to others. It will be good therapy for me, also.

Your friend

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Fri, 13 May 2011 01:33:18 +0000

My daughter is still living with her deadbeat.
I linked to this page thru facebook, and when she saw it on my profile she didn’t like it very much, and accused me of trying to publicly embarrass him, etc, though I didn’t name any names and most of my facebook friends know nothing of her living arrangements. Oh well, maybe one day she’ll wise up. She’s left this dirtbag before, and everybody tried to help her out and support her when she did, but she just keeps taking him back.

By: Chad Stacey

Chad Stacey — Wed, 11 May 2011 10:28:51 +0000

I believe you are right when you say “I think he is Bipolar/addiction to gambling and drugs”. You did nothing wrong and need to do your best to stop trying to figure out why this happened.

It’s the hardest thing in the world to face the fact that there are some things in life that we will never be able to answer the question…Why?!

The key is to learn from the experience, let it help you grow as a person and move on as quickly as possible. This guy sounds like he has a lot of problems and I’m glad you have warned other women he may be on the hunt for. There were many warning signs from what you wrote but many times we will overlook those when we are in love. Don’t blame yourself, move on and be happy.

We wish you the best of luck.

By: Broken Heart

Broken Heart — Sun, 08 May 2011 23:02:16 +0000

After my story, I had to question myself, about this guy that was in my life over 2 years, and how he had to go out of his way to come see me, 200 miles out of his way, over and over. I am mixed was it love or just his way of buttering me up, till he could take me to the cleaners. Or could it be he finally got the message, I would not give in. Another question, was there ever love involved, or was he such a sick man he couldn’t control his bad habits, his gambling, consumed him. He actually snapped 3 weeks ago, I have to wonder what caused that, not knowing if it had to do with all the money he owes people, it came with no notice. He came thru town to take me to dinner 4 weeks ago, out of nowhere he said, “I LOVE YOU”. Was that fake. I do not know. How can you hate someone so bad as he does me, being mad. I was so good to him, I guess the word “NO” he could not take. How can he walk away so easily, and not think about the good times we had, we laughed so much, we both love alot of the same things, talked about different types of cars, like good friends. Or did his addictions take him away, his self esteem was low, I always tried to build him up to make him feel better about his self, as he did with me. One time he was high in mood talking fast excited, later he became low and cutting all things down within hours. I could see the depression set in when he would leave me for a trip. He at the end would come see me, and not ask for money, we enjoyed one another’s company. I started to see a change in him he seemed uncomfortable with me. Do these men not even have a heart and soul, can they walk on and just forget who you were in their life. I know his x-wife left him because of gambling, it has been 8 yrs. he still is caught up into it. How can a man tell you how foxy, beautiful you are over and over, and when he left I was fat, ugly, whatever. I work out all the time, I know I’m not ugly, where did this come from, his heart or just wanted to make me feel bad. Better than that did it really make him feel better to have said that. I was his first long relationship, since his x-wife of 26 yrs. I never got closure from him, I asked him did he ever love me, I got nothing back.

If someone out there can explain this to me, I would so appreciate it. I want to get past this, but it’s so hard. I need answers.
Thanks

By: Broken Heart

Broken Heart — Sun, 08 May 2011 01:05:56 +0000

This is a continuation of my story, I failed to say this jerk, owes back taxes of 100,000, he owes his sister money, creditors are after him all over, can’t keep his cell phone in operation, can’t even pay 58.00 for cell bill. His children I found out had to go to their aunt for money, to be able to eat, he didn’t send them money when needed, but he went to restaurants for him to eat. He would run out of money and go for days without eating, gambling was more important. He has no credit what so ever. No car, lost his home, he let that go back. many times he knew he had to send his kids money, and went to gamble it away instead. His kids live in an apartment alone, 2 boys, half the time he doesn’t pay rent, his sister has had to, or eviction. I have to say how sad is that. He said he was addicted to oxy at one time, I know that is a lie. He is still on it. I think he is Bipolar/addiction to gambling and drugs. I researched it and I know to be true. This man drives an eighteen wheeler, how safe is that. When I told him the last time I would not help him, he yelled at me and said,” I will find someone out there that will give me the money. This guy is on the prowl for another woman to take from. He will not ask his family anymore, they are done, no man will give him money, just us women. He told me he could not live in Denver, where his kids are, he has done something wrong there, not paid taxes or something else. All I can pray, is that he will be taken off the streets before he hurts someone. He is a womanizer, he picks classy ladies, if they look like they have a lot, he goes after them. He has no heart, because I know how desperate he is now. If you saw him you wouldn’t think he drove a truck. I’m sure there is some good truck drivers out there, not to knock them, I thought this guy was. I don’t go around looking for truck drivers, but he came off as a good person and I thought it doesn’t matter what the profession is it is the person. He has too much freedom out there to take what’s not his, he covers a lot of states.

By: Broken Heart

Broken Heart — Sat, 07 May 2011 23:41:06 +0000

OMG, I have heard some horrific stories, hearing these stories totally woke me up. I went with a man 47yrs old, I am 55 yrs. old, he came onto me in a restaurant, and wanted my phone number, so I gave it. He is a trucker, very good looking man, awesome personality, beautiful blue eyes, a charmer, was very complimentary. We were together 2 yrs. and 5 months, just when he came thru town I could see him, wasn’t enough, it did not bother him to the least, I always questioned that. He after a few months of dating he wanted to fly me to meet his family in another state. I went, at first the trip was good, he invited me to go with he and his kids to the the movie theater, we get there he has no money on him, tells me I can use my credit card to pay for all of us, that pissed me off, we got into an arguement, I stood my ground, and said no Sir I will not pay, he blows up inside the theater and walks off with his 2 sons and goes into the show we were there to see, left me behind, I proceeded in but sat somewhere else, this bastard left me at the show, in a place I had never been. I called him and asked why did you leave me, and come pick me up now. He said no, get a cab. We were staying with his sister, I had to call her to pick me up, we went back to her house I packed my bags, to leave for the airport 3 days early, so I had to pay extra to get home, different flight. On the way to the airport, his sister proceeded to tell me he really is a good guy, he has had a bad up bringing. I said ” my life hasn’t been a bed roses, but I would not treat someone like he treated me. He would not even take me to the airport, I was so scaired, crying uncontrollable. This jerk, called me 3 weeks later and said he was sorry for what he did. So, we get back together things are okay, until his truck breaks down in my town while he was coming thru to see me, I think it was planned. He ended up staying at my home for a week, until he asked to borrow 50,000 from me, he asked for a car, not just any car a fricken Mercedes. I told him no way, he shouted at me at the car lot, and drove my BMW thru traffic fast and mad, out of control. I calmed him down, we went on. That afternoon he calls his kids and tells them he and I are getting married, no truth to that, I never said I would marry him, he asked again about the 50,000 and I said no, he grabbed my cell phone and threw it in a pond. I had to go to neighbor for help, he tried to hit me. the police came and arrested him. He left all his belongings in my home, clothing etc. did not hear from him for weeks, the police told me to get a lawyer, because I had his crap. He never would come and pick it up, he sends someone else to do the dirty work. That’s a true COWARD. I paid a phone bill for him 380.00 he promised to pay back and didn’t. When he came to see me I took wonderful care of him, cooked whatever he wanted, When I first met him he did take me out, bought me roses. Things changed. People I’m ashamed to say I let him come back into my life again, by this time I actually fell in love with him. I loaned him my old computer, and asked for it back, when he could get his own, he said” you gave it to me” I did not. He asked me earlier, what kind of man are you looking for in life, we always had real deep conversation, very open I thought. I told him I wanted a good christian man, so he proceeds to tell me he is going to be a minister, and would I walk by his side thru it, I was so excited I really thought he was going to change, I found out later he lies about everything that came out of his mouth. I was totally sick to my stomach, he had no intentions of that, He told me of so many things that he was going to do, he had no intentions. This idiot made good money in his job, what I finally found out, he was a gambler of 7 yrs. and spending his whole paycheck at the casinos within hours. He admitted it and said he had stop, it was making him sick each time. I was there to console each time. Told him to get help. He would lie and say, I will. Not even do it. He said he wanted to move to Texas in with me, could I help him to get there, so we could be together. At this time I was waking up, and catching on to his lies. Thank God he never moved in. My self estem hit the floor, I became so low, mad at myself for being so stupid. He pulled his last trick, and called me 3 weeks ago, and said, ” you don’t LOVE ME, or you would help me move to Texas, to get me away from the gambling”. I told him, I do love you, but you need to get help to quit your gambling. The dumbass spends 1000.00 on Megas, pwerball, etc. that is everywhere. He worked overtime to get me to feel sorry for him. Last Christmas, he didn’t even buy his 3 children presents, and certainly not me. That is fine, but his children, he has put his whole thru hell over and over again. He texted me 3 weeks ago, and cut me down to the bone, saying, ” your ugly, fat, lonely woman. ” none of that is true. I have to question, why was he with me over 2 yrs. and told me how beautiful I was, of course we know, I would not give him what he wanted. He was jealous of me wanting to succeed in life, as he had no intentions of ever being something. He is gone now, and people let me tell you, I did a lot of praying, for God to keep me safe from him, this last time I listened to what God was telling me to do, RUN RUN RUN. It hurts because you put yourself out there and trusting someone, loving them, having an intement sexual relationship, that makes you feel even closer and that meant nothing to that SOB. 3 weeks ago he called me and said he was coming thru town, I asked, Why? He said he wanted to see me, he missed me, and wanted to tell me how much he Loved me. This time I wasn’t buying it. All I want is closure, I feel like a stake in my heart. How do you ever trust another? All I can do is guard my heart and make myself so tough and strong. It was a nightmare. People tried to warn me, I had to find out on my own. Once you are lied to over and over, it is hard to trust anyone. All I can say he fooled me, but he did not get all that he wanted from me. If I saw him in public, I would walk over to him and knock his lights out. I have a reason to write a book, to warn women out there, I was so vulnerable, a lot of us are. I know as I speak this guy is out there doing the same to other people. That hurts me. Ladies just beware. Going on this site really helped me to see hope, I hate that others have had to suffer, as I, some were taken for more money than me, I just caught it in time, before he took me to the cleaners. Number 1, I stopped believing him, but as long as you let them try to take your joy, peace, happiness away we loose in the end. Bless all you, I lost my dignity, had depression, stopped taking care of myself, I feel I hit bottom, because of some creep, that hurts others, because he is hurting. He wanted to drag me down with him. Well, I got one on him, he is not succeeding with me. I do pray that he will not succeed to do others as he did me. I would love to post a picture of him in every state, beware of this jerk.

By: Jon Hlutke

Jon Hlutke — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 09:57:45 +0000

What the hell!!!!

My baby’s Momma decided to date a 24 yr old kid. hes broke and lives with his momma. he is a mommas boy! Now shes broke and screaming to me for money. I know him as Jon Hlutke

By: One Sad Sucker

One Sad Sucker — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 21:47:42 +0000

Well at least I know I’m not alone out there. I met my deadbeat last December. Our first date was on Christmas Eve. He’d lost his job the day before. We were inseparable from the start. HE was funny, charming, romantic, optimistic and a great cook. He was a great help around the house, at first, and when I had to temporarily move out of my place due to a flood, he had no hesitation in inviting me to stay with him. I paid his rent that month, along with all the living expenses. When he got denied unemployment, things started falling apart. He didn’t tell me how far behind he actually was in all his bills – and this had started well before he lost his job.

What work the man has managed to scrounge up the last 8 months is what I either found or gave him. He managed to stay in his own apartment (few blocks from me) but he was barely hanging on. Then in March I caught him screwing another woman. I cut him lose, but then so did she, within hours after she found out he had lied to her about our relationship. He came crawling back a few weeks later and like a fool I took him back.

He has done a lot for me, it’s true. Helped with things around the house, did all the cooking, maintained my car — but the financial drain was horrible. He refused to get food stamps to help with the groceries. He hit me up for money for rent repeatedly, refusing to move in with me because he would’t give up his cats and I can’t have them where I live.

In June his electricity was cut off (he owed over $1,500) and he started hanging at my house every day while I was at work. Playing video games on my computer and chatting with other women online. He made a huge mess every day and never cleaned up after himself. Meanwhile I still picked up the tab for all the groceries, his beer & cigarettes, and little special items to make him feel better about being out of work (which he claimed he was looking for but nothing ever materialized)

Then he joined a band and started making a little cash, but not much. Until he started causing a lot of conflict and drama in the band. They fired him after just 2 months and he tried to blame it on me, because one of the guys and I got together to compare notes on his lies and behaviors.

It was right around this time I found out he had been screwing other women on the road, had even talked one of them in to letting him move in with her so he could look for a job near the city SHE lives in (5 hours from here), and at the same time was chasing after a woman right here in our city who he had met through a temp job I had set them both up with. My guy is 44, the woman he started seeing on the side is 60, divorced and lonely. (Can anyone say Gigolo?) She fell for his sob story hook, line and sinker.

This went on for several weeks. He hid the relationship from me (I work days, she works nights) and when I did figure it out, he claimed they were just friends. Then he started leaving my place earlier and earlier at night and sneaking over to see her when her shift as a waitress ended. Two weeks ago I caught him coming home at 7 in the morning and ended things on the spot. No way I was going to continue financing his life while he went off to play with other women. Up until then, he’d never had any reason to ask her for money or help of any kind. But that’s going to change quick, fast and in a hurry. Let HER find out what its like to support his deadbeat ass.

Last week he finally got evicted from his place. He owed the landlord over $5,000. And I found out he has a 16 year old son he never bothered to mention – and he’s over $50,000 behind in child support.
He has defaulted on numerous loans, has another eviction from just 3 years ago, and hasn’t been able to hang on to a job for more than 2 years in the last 18. He’s $90,000 in debt and just doesn’t care. He’ll take whatever he can get from anyone who is sucker enough to give it to him. And the worst part is: he feels completely entitled to all of it. Oh. And EVERYTHING that has ever gone wrong in his life is always someone else’s fault. He can’t see his role in any of it.

Right now I don’t even know where he’s living. We haven’t spoken in two weeks. Social Services set him up in a place I think- but he could just as well be living with the 60 year old. He still owes me $400 from a loan I made him in May. He should be getting paid for a job I got for him any day now, and he told me he’d get it to me, but with his track record, I doubt I’ll see any of it.

I know he’s someone else’s problem now and that I am well rid of him, but at the same time I miss him. He was a good companion, and you don’t just go from talking and being with someone 7 days a week to nothing overnight and NOT miss them.

I would have been further ahead to have NOT taken him back in March when he first cheated on me. I guess I just wanted him to do better and BE better, but it’s not in his nature. He’ll always be a deadbeat and he’ll always chase women, lining up the next one while he’s playing the one he’s got.

By: .T.

.T. — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 05:27:27 +0000

Well, seems I took the right step.

I recently left my ‘fiancé’, after a two year relationship. If you can call it a relationship?!
I moved to America to pursue a lifetime of love and happiness. Yeah, didn’t quite work out like that.

The first week that I arrived wasn’t even the greatest experience. However, I continued, I mean, it was stressful for the both of us. Both needing to adapt to everything.
I was aware of his ‘love’ of video games, et cetera. I guess I never really took into consideration just how much he loved playing them.
Like I said, the first week..all he did was complain he was ‘bored’, as we booked ourselves into a hotel. We wanted some privacy and it was supposed to be a time to relax and enjoy one another.
Into the second week and the game controller was in his hand, leaving me in the background.
Which is where I was placed from then on.
It got to the point of where we were living separate lives.
On top of everything else he wasn’t working. so there was added pressure.
So now I had a fiancé that wouldn’t provide for me financially, nor emotionally.

Feeling already the failure I found myself excusing his behaviour to everyone who questioned his lack of actions. I mean, I loved this guy. I gave up everything for this man. Surely he loved me!? He says he loves me.. when he chooses to pay me attention it feels like the best feeling in the World. The list of excuses went on..and on.

Then I became pregnant..At first he was wonderful about the pregnant. Attentive, gentle, sometimes a little too suffocating. Then I guess the ‘honeymoon’ period was replaced by an Xbox 360.
I’d look around our apartment at the lack of baby items, and I’d see his ever growing collection of ‘toys’ taking up most of our bedroom. Great.

Gaming would go on day and night. I was psychically drained from my pregnancy and now feeling totally emotional. I blamed the hormones for my state of depression and on going tearful outbursts. I’d attend health check visits on my own, the staff asking if “Daddy is busy working, again?!”.. “Yes, as always.”, I’d reply.

Work?! Pfft.. He’d been up all night playing games and couldn’t be bothered to join me. It came to a point in my pregnancy where I was getting very little sleep, due to the online banter. Yes, he’d continue to play through the night, with the aid of a microphone. This meant I was having to listen to his rants at other ‘gamers’. Charming.
He’d refuse to play elsewhere in the house, and well, I refused to sleep on the couch.
I was pregnant, and it wasn’t a comfortable couch at that.

I guess this is where it went downhill fast..
Arguments continued, it came to a point of where I’d have scheduled crying sessions in the bath tub. He was unavailable for my emotional needs, and sure as hell wasn’t there for me when he was playing a game..which was, uhm, always!? As the arguments became more frequent, I became more and more depressed. I then knew it wasn’t my hormones, it was him.
I can’t leave him now!? He’ll change once the baby is here!
I mean, they always say a man becomes a father when he holds his child.. right?!
Wrong.
I did everything.
I was even up cleaning and cooking the same day I brought our beautiful baby home.
Where was he? No. Asleep. My labour took its toll on him. He was tired!
Give it another day.. Yes, he was back playing games.
Our daughter had terrible colic, also oral thrush. This caused her a lot of discomfort, and in result made her cry A LOT.
Then came the postnatal depression. YAY.
So, I had postnatal depression on top of depression, a screaming baby…and a ‘gamer’.
He’d complain about our baby crying and interrupting his game, that he couldn’t talk on the mic, and he didn’t want to subject the other players to a screaming baby.
How considerate.

Our relationship plummeted further..

I had no friends around, no ‘father’ for my child. I was now the mother of two.
No, I wasn’t foolish to become pregnant again. I considered my fiancé the ‘elder’ child.

During this process my self confidence was basically non existent. I was still carrying the extra weight from my pregnancy, and now I found myself eating out of sheer boredom. It’s not like I had anyone to impress. I’d sleep alone, when I would get up with our child he’d choose to go to bed.

Leaving me to tend to our child, and having to ‘keep the noise down’, as he was trying to sleep. He must get at least 8 hours, or he’s not able to function.

Oh..he got a job! Didn’t improve anything though. After all, when he finished work he’d whine about how hard his life is. How is must be great for me, being at home all day. It totally slipped his mind that I looked after a toddler, cleaned, cooked.
However, I shouldn’t complain, as he always told me that millions of women do that and they don’t complain. They don’t complain? Because they’re not with you.
Besides, I never complained. I’d simply remind you that my ‘work’ was hard, also.

Anyway, now he was working man. Yeah, a working man with a new found ego. Oh, he was up there on his own little pedestal. He was untouchable. Except he was missing out on his games. Awe.
Didn’t stop him spending every free moment with his beloved machines. The routine continued. I’d go to bed, after I finished tending to his needs. I was exhausted.
I had been up since the break of day..well, you know how it goes. I’d end up getting 3 hours of sleep a day.
Meanwhile, he’s having his ‘free’ time playing games or on the internet all night. He’d spend about an hour, if that with our child before he retired to his comatose state. Then he’d wake up about an hour before work, take a 20minute shower, then a smoke break with a session of text messaging..oh, erm, what about spending time with your child before work, dear?! “I don’t have time!”..
Nice. So in total you spent an hour with our lil’ one today!

When he’d return home from work at 1:30am he’d go take a shower, I’d prepare his meal. I’d tried to chat with him, only to get whined at as I was babbling on too much. I haven’t had a conversation with an adult ALL day, of course I am ‘babbling’ on. In the end I would just give up and go to bed. This would be another scheduled crying session.

Final straw came when I found out he was doing more than just playing games with machines, he was playing games with another woman. His ex.
Made sense why he wasn’t coming to bed at night. After all, why come to bed when someone who is real? He can have his virtual cake and eat it. He can switch her off every night.. unlike me. He refused to admit it was cheating. After all, he wasn’t emotionally involved with her and he didn’t physically engage in sexual activity.
Aren’t I lucky?!

I am glad I enabled his message archive. Otherwise I might still be crying myself to sleep.

Yes, I still cry at times. I know that those tears will soon dry up.

My life is now with MY child. My heart is mending, too.