What the Hell happened to Gentlemen?

Posted by: apaquette Wed, Dec 26, 2007
Posted in category Relationships

I so want to know what happened to all the gentlemen in the world.  What happened to taking care of each other and each others needs?  I am so tired of lazy ass men.  I am single of course because I am sick of the bullshit.  Men are so good at “getting in” butbad menthey fail to realize that women have needs too.  They forget about their good women and all of the great things that she does for them.  Whoever decided that woman’s rights meant that men didn’t have to do anything but go to work was an idiot.  We as women not only work our asses off in the home doing all the cleaning and cooking and all of the things you do when you have your own place but now we have to be the men too because they work “so hard”.  That’s bullshit.  We also work out of the home most of the time, as if taking care of the home isn’t an endless job already.  I want a gentlemen, women like flowers and dinner dates and candles.  Men are so stupid that they think that if they are around it will be enough. We as women need attention, if that is too much for you I guess that’s why you have to be mad about never getting laid.  We are people too.  What happened to men doing things to help their women out?  Men need to be making sure that the women are taken care of in all aspects, not just with your paycheck.  If it was about your paycheck believe me, we could find someone that makes more and hire someone to do all of the crap that we do around the house.  We want partners and someone to share our lives with.  If you don’t have time for that as a man, you can’t have all the perks.  I have been told that I “shop in the wrong section” I don’t believe that.  Most of the married people that I know aren’t even happy with each other let alone they don’t even like each other.  I have “shopped” in just about every section there is.  I have dated black men, white men, Tongan men, Mexican men, and this list goes on.  There have been “so called” good boys and bad boys.  I think that what it boils down to is men are lazy when it comes to taking care of their women.  Now, all men say “well I am not like that” but they are, and they do not listen when you tell them what you need. Then they can’t understand why you dump them or move on, or sleep with their friends.  But lets not go there about cheating spouses.  Everyone thinks they have a good reason to cheat, its all just excuses.  What my main bitch is why can’t men take care of the women that take care of them?  If you have a good one, show her how much you appreciate her.  Tell her, do things to help her.  Housework is not only for women anymore.  Every little thing that a man does for his women mean more to us than you can understand.  If we see you doing things to help us out, we will love and respect you more.  Don’t make male bashing so easy for us.  Getting a woman isn’t the end of it, you have to continue to do what you have to do to keep her.  We are not bought and paid for because we are married or in a relationship.  We need all of the things that got us in the relationship to continue to keep us there.  This is a new world, if you don’t take care of your women like you should someone else will.  SO men, lets remember who takes care of you every day.  Take care of that woman back.  Do what is necessary to keep her in love with you.  And remember, you are not OUR children, we have our own, and you should spend your life WITH us and continue to put us first.  If you are just there to have someone to take care of you without anything in return, move back to yo mama’s house.  We want to spend our lives taking care of someone who takes care of us also. gentleman Do things with us and make us feel like the most important thing in your life.  If you don’t feel that way about the person that you are with, find the one that does make you feel like that, but leave the one your with first please.  People should look at it so much differently than they do.  Don’t be with someone just to have them there, be with them because they make you happy and take care of you like they should.  Put every bit of effort into making that person happy and believe me, it will come back ten fold.  Men, take responsibility for your women not staying with you, figure out a little about her so you know what she needs.  Every woman is different, but we are not that hard to figure out.  If you really care, you will know her and be able to tell what she needs probably better than she can.  It is work; don’t be so lazy to work on it.  If you love her, love her with everything, don’t take people for granted, they can only take so much of it before you lose the best thing that you ever could have had.  Don’t forget the little things mean so much to us.  Open our doors, tell us you love us and make it proven in your actions.  And remember women are much more perseptive than men, you will never be better at it than us, actions speak louder than words, so listen always to her, even if she is bitching, let her vent and say what she has to say, but ALWAYS make her understand that you care what she thinks and feels.  It will help you out a lot in the end.

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3 Responses to “What the Hell happened to Gentlemen?”

  1. momofjhrazk says:

    Dec. 26, 2007

    Gentlemen ARE out there. I found one! I am almost sure he isn’t the last. He is wonderful. We have been together for seven years and we are still happy. We respect each other and love each other unconditionally. We both work 40 hours a week & run a household w/5 children on a daily basis. We “tag” team parent, as we call it. I thought for a long time that there was not one good one left, but he captured my heart & soul and we have been together ever since.
    Just hang in there and keep looking!

  2. K says:

    Jan. 13, 2008

    As a guy, I feel I have to stick up for the other guys out there.

    Great little article and some of it is indeed right, but not all of it. I would like to think of myself as an old fashioned gentleman (at times), but it’s getting harder and harder to be these days.

    I totally support the move towards gender equality in our age, and feel that there is still a long way to go. But along with this came some negative sides. The very few gentlemen out there found it increasingly difficult to survive with the same practices when a lot of the roles where taken away from them. The role as the main provider, the protector of the family etc etc among other things. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that women can’t do this and shouldn’t, I’m just saying that men used to do it exclusively, (or it was seen this way) and now have nothing to replace it with.

    I would like to see myself as the protector of my family (when I have one). I want to provide and look after them. Make sure that they have everything they need. Not because I feel that the woman of the house can’t do it, but because I see it as my role, my duty. I wanna be the “Hero”, if you will, of the family. I feel that is how it should have been. And along with that duty comes all the responsibilities. These days it’s kinda frowned upon when you hear talk of this, because it seems like it proposes that women are incapable.

    Let me give you an example. I was sitting on a bench with a group of other friends. One of my lady friends came along, so being the gentleman (or so I thought), I got up and offered her my seat. She rejected, not kindly mind you, but took offense to my act of kindness and insisted I sit back down cos it wasn’t the 1930’s! Well, slight exaggeration, we infact chased each other round the seat playing reverse musical chairs trying to get the other person to sit, but if felt like that.

    Acts of chivalry aren’t looked at in the light they should be, making it harder for us gentleman to survive.

    I’ve totally said too much here, but this is a topic I feel strongly about. There is one last thing I wanna say though, and don’t take offense of this, although you probably will. I once heard a person say

    “The one single constant in all your failed relationships is yourself!”

    There are decent men out there, but it takes two to tango.

    K

  3. Chad & Stacey says:

    Jan. 14, 2008

    Wow K that is a great point of view from an old fashioned gentleman. I agree that the new “independent age” makes it hard for a man to do what he feels right. I am just glad that there are stil men out there like that and that I didn’t get the last one, that wouldn’t be fair. There are obviously still women our there looking for a gentleman so hang on you’ll be someones “Hero” one day.

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